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Domestic Violence

About Abuse

If you are in immediate danger and fear for your safety, dial 911

If you are in a safe place, call the Outer Banks Hotline 24-hour help line

Call 252-473-3366

The Outer Banks Hotline offers housing and services for individuals, children and families experiencing domestic violence.  A team of trained professionals works with each client to provide support and advocacy to break the cycle of abuse.

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic Violence is more than physical violence. Ending the harm and stigma of domestic violence requires understanding of the behaviors that define it, as well as examples of healthy relationships, to inform your interactions and decisions moving forward. Our advocates are available 24/7 to discuss your situation and help determine if your relationship might be abusive.

Domestic violence, also referred to as intimate partner violence (IPV), dating abuse or relationship abuse, is a pattern of behaviors by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate.  People of any age, race, gender, sexuality, religion. education level or economic status can be a victim or perpetrator of domestic violence. That includes behaviors that physically harm, intimidate, manipulate or control a partner, or otherwise force them to behave in ways they don’t want to, including through physical violence, threats, emotional abuse or financial control. Abusers may also control victims through economic abuse, isolation, coercion or threats against the victim’s children or pets. Stalking and controlling behavior through technology are other common forms of violence.  Many victims fear the unknowns of what may happen if they leave their abuser.

In abusive situations, multiple forms of abuse are usually present at the same time and to know what to look for you need to understand how these forms of abuse intertwine. When we know what a relationship looks like and means, we can take steps to get help for ourselves as well as better supporting others.

If you are a victim of domestic violence,
please remember...

You are not alone,

You are not to blame,

You do not deserve to be abused,

There is NO excuse for domestic violence!